It is beneficial to do this in a circle.
Each session begins with each participant, in turn, stating what they liked to be called and one thing for which they are grateful.
Follwing a brief introduction of the purpose of the gathering, conferees pair off. When everyone has found a partner, with an 'A' amd a 'B' in each pair, the exercise instructions are given:
After a guided relaxation, you will recall a memory or have an experience that is useful for you partner.
When the signal is given, person A will relay their memory. Person B gives feedback. Then person B tells their memory and person A gives feedback.
Participants then reform as a single group [circle].
The letting go occurs by doing first the forgiveness exercise and then using a native american practice of placing one's intentions, wishes,
desires in a bit of tobacco and sending them to the Creator via fire or water.
The forgiveness exercise affirms 'I love me, I forgive me, I love the pain giver, I forgive the pain giver.'
The tobacco ceremony can be physical or virtual. It is done physically generally at outdoor ceremonies. It is often performed virtually, using the imagination,especially indoors. It can also be done with physical tobacco indoors with the tobacco placed in a container to be returned to the Earth afterwards. The grief and/or whatever no longer serves is then intentionally placed in the tobacco which is then placed in a fire or a body of flowing water or a container to be carried to a sacred fire or flowing water and placed in same. In a virtual ceremony, this is guided step by step in the imagination of each participant. No one has yet questioned using the imagination to perform this release ceremony.
After the release ceremony, an explanation of setting one's intention and using one's imagination may be given. Conferees give feedback and ask questions.
Closing ceremony. Each participant sees in their mind's eye or feels in their heart, the face and/or the presence of one they love dearly, [a child or a pet may be a good choice]. The particiapants focus on this feeling of love for a bit, then are directed to send the feeling around the circle [specify right or left] which raises the group frequency.